Courtship or dating in itay
What was courtship and marriage like for our distant ancestors?Beginning with the ancient Greeks' recognition of the need to describe more than one kind of love, inventing the word In ancient times, many of the first marriages were by capture, not choice - when there was a scarcity of nubile women, men raided other villages for wives.The version I learned prescribed getting to know someone for three to four months before exclusively seeing them and discerning marriage.
That model is so archaic and laced with problems that I’m just going to focus on the less troubling version here, which more or less calls for strictly phased relationships, courtship vocabulary rather than “dating” lingo, and a slower introduction than is typical in the U. Even if they read the same courtship material I did, they were not persuaded. I don’t toss this statement out lightly; I have discussed this with two people familiar with Pennsylvania Dutch culture.This approach is supposed to lessen the number of relationships (and heartbreaks) a person has, and is sometimes marketed as a silver bullet to most modern-day dating problems.More extreme approaches recommend that a girl’s father manage her relationships for her. What courtship bandwagon devotees sometimes fail to recognize is that a budding relationship with potential can quickly turn into a pressure cooker or fizzle out if it is not permitted to grow at a natural pace.During the Victorian Era (1837-1901), romantic love became viewed as the primary requirement for marriage and courting became even more formal - almost an art form among the upper classes.An interested gentleman could not simply walk up to a young lady and begin a conversation.